| Monday 05/20/2002 9:39:57am |
| Name: |
Paddy Pelczar |
| E-Mail: |
regoangels@webtv.net |
| Location: |
Wareham, Mass. |
| Comments: |
I was looking up speech delay in toddlers to mysurprise I came to your most inspiring
page. I am the grandma of Baby Alex Rego who died on April 30, 1995 at the age of 26 mos
old from a 6 mos. battle with acute mylegoneous leukemia and also his brother Andrew Rego
who was tragically killed on a school sponsored ski trip to Ragged Mtn.in New Hampshire on
March 2,2000. My daughter and husband have lost two children and I thank God each day for
giving them strength each day to be able to function, smile and take care of their 3
yr.old.As a grandparent who was so close to my grandsons it is very sad for
me.Grandparents grief is doubled because our children no matter what age are our babies
forever and when their hearts are in so much pain we hurt so much for them and we have
lost also. It will never be the same as loosing our child because there is nothing worst
in the world for a parent to loose a child, let alone two children. They are in a better
place and not until our journey on this earth is complete and we meet again in Heaven will
we know the answer WHY
I want to thank you for the inforn=mation re: siblings. When Andrew died in 2002, his baby
brother Nick, was 20 mos. old. The pediatrcian told his parents that he wouldn"t need
counseling because he was too young and he would just forget about his brother. That
statement proved so untrue. Nick started having aggressiveness. My daughter attributed
this behavior to the terrible two"s Last Sept. he went to poroject grow and the
teachers just loved him. He was always smiling had a great personality etc.
after 3 weeks he started to hit some of the children especially if they were singing or
playing with a toy he wanted. Then he didn't want to go to school. The teachers said tat
he would get real angry all of a sudden and hit another toddler. They were observing him
and told my daughter to take him to a therapist. They, the teachers, know my daughter very
well and they thought it might have something to do with his issues re the loss of a
sibling My daughters mind started running with all kinds of obsessive thoughts, does he
have add, is it a form of autism, is he going to be a violent person when he grows
up.....never could she understand that he was affected by grief....
i read many articles and I would tell her things he would say to me about his brother, she
just didn't get it. I really believe that she thought okay we had a beautiful baby come
down with the worst kind of leukemia and he died such a painful death. Then our 12 yr. old
gets killed instantly on the ski slope, now this one must have emotional problems.
Well, finally they took Nick out of school he"s in therapy and he does not have
emotional problems....he is going through the pains of grief and being so young his pain
came out in anger, not wanting to share and fear.But thank God he is 90% better today and
mommy and daddy are expecting their 4th child anyday. This was not a planned pregnancy his
is Jesus giving back. Nick will have a baby brother or sister again.
Another miracle, thank you Jesus !
For all the parents whose children have gone to Heaven I pray for you all that you will
have strength, comfort and peace in you hearts. |
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